I recently stopped to think about how much has changed in my life in the past three months.
- I moved out of my college apartment into a new place in a new neighborhood.
- I started my first post-grad, full-time job.
- My commute to work went from being a five-minute walk to a 20 minute subway ride.
- My friends went from living in the room next door, or a few blocks away to completely different cities and states.
- I have a budget…who even am I?
In short, I’ve gone from the comforts of things that have been familiar and welcomed pieces of my life for the past 3-4 years, and started to embrace the new changes and challenges of real world living. I’ve been adulting hard-core, and I’d be lying if I told you the transition has been easy.
There were many aspects of “real world” living that I was already prepared for. I knew that bills would become more frequent and costly, I knew that my schedule would change dramatically and that adjusting to a new routine would take time, and I was definitely prepared for some learning curves at work.
And all of those things happened, and then some.
But what I wasn’t prepared for were the deeper and more emotional challenges that come along with leaving the familiar behind and starting a fresh chapter in life.
I wasn’t prepared to battle bouts of sadness over going months without seeing my closest friends. I never thought I’d rely so heavily on group chats and phone calls; but still, I miss the real deal. The late night girl night sessions, getting advice in real-time and just being with my friends.
And I absolutely wasn’t prepared to be struggle so much to find a sense of normalcy in the every day.
The issue that I’ve been having is that I’ve spent so much time focusing on all of the change that’s happening, all of the transition I’m going through and all of the “problems” I have, that I haven’t stopped to truly appreciate all of the good in my life.
I watched a Periscope recently where the scoper said that we should stop focusing on not having problems and instead focus on having better problems.
DUH! That resonated so strongly in my heart, and I started taking stock of how incredible my problems are:
- I’m currently shifting my energy and getting back on track because I was able to start the job of my dreams just months after graduating college.
- I’ve left on comfortable apartment to move to a neighborhood I’ve always wanted to move to.
- I’m away from my friends because we are all off working out butts off, living our passions and KILLING IT!
It’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, challenging you or becoming a struggle. But when we shift our focus to everything that we have to be grateful for, it truly makes a world of difference.
The next few months are going to be uneasy, but I’d rather adjust now so that I can continue to do what I love in the long run.